Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Entitled

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Growing up, I remember my mom watching Oprah regularly.  One day I was as mesmerized as she was when I saw that Oprah's guests were a large family.  I counted the kids and couldn't believe they were all brothers and sisters.  I have always romanticized what big families must be like, and to see one on tv was definitely captivating to me.  I found out that the parents were Linda and Richard Eyre, parenting experts, and I remember thinking it was a good thing they were experts since they had nine kids!

Fast forward to today and I am still captivated by the Eyre's as I see a family who knows success in the most worthy pursuits- individuals who work hard, who love each other, who are dedicated to their chosen fields in life be it education or business or motherhood, and who serve those around them.  I love seeing Richard and Linda's latest parenting books now that I'm in the stage where I could use help from a parenting expert.  The latest book from the Eyre's, The Entitlement Trap, has definitely caught my eye.  

When I was teaching school, I saw an increasing number of students who felt entitled.  They were entitled to good grades because of their sparkling personalities, and they couldn't make the connection when those grades weren't as good as they were hoping for that they hadn't done the work to earn said grades.  Sadly, after I met with parents I frequently saw where their entitled attitudes stemmed from.  I knew it was a battle that I could not easily overcome to instill values of hard work in those students.

One of my biggest fears as a parent is that my my kids won't know how to work.  I realized that my role is to teach them how, but it's hard to know how hard to push sometimes, especially at different ages.  I don't want to coddle my sensitive 4-year-old, but I don't want to hold him to the same expectations I have for my 6-year-old, either.  And I don't want to give my 6-year-old a never ending list of chores, but I want her to contribute in appropriate ways to our home and to begin to feel self-motivated.


The Entitlement Trap helps give parents tools to teach their children about work and ownership, the antidote to attitudes of entitlement.  It's not just a book, it's the beginning of a movement to help overcome the entitlement that is cankering society today.  I recommend pre-ordering to get the book for an even better price and to help it debut on the best-seller list so more parents will take note of this great resource.  I'm not usually the kind to line up for a movie premier or to anticipate a book release, but I admittedly can't wait for this book.

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How do you teach your kids to work?  How do you combat entitlement?


1 comment:

tawnya said...

I've seen this book enough, that I'm getting the hint! I also worry about this. And while I KNOW my only 4 year old does more than most (probably because I'm so paranoid!) he's also an only and that has a whole host of issues itself. Such a crazy balance...