Monday, May 2, 2011

On Bee-ing a Mom, Part 1: Own It

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Good morning, friends!  I feel so happy this morning- a new week, a new month, new opportunities abounding, and a new week-long series here at Bee leading up to Mother's Day.  Yes, I'm just one more person adding my thoughts on motherhood to the mix, but I hope you won't mind. I certainly don't have all the answers- I've been a mom for about 6 1/2 years, but I have definitely learned a lot since becoming a mother.

Lesson one: own it.  Motherhood is a place where overwhelming inadequacy can be found without looking very far.  I've had many days at home with my kids where I've doubted my abilities to handle the challenges of mothering.  I think one morning with a roll of toilet paper unravelled across the house, a toy explosion, a potty-training accident, and a tantrum accompanied by shouts of "I don't like you, Mom," are enough to make any of us wonder how we're qualified for this job, or why we're doing it, or what makes us like it.  It is hard to be in the trenches of motherhood. 

But I know from experience that dwelling on our (perceived) deficiencies can be a dangerous place.   I think we can channel those feelings two ways.  If we choose to see our inadequacies as ways to keep us humble, but we're still ready to learn how to do all that is required of us as mothers, we are on the right path.  But if we allow those inadequacies to snowball into guilt, that guilt can quickly become debilitating and we will give up in becoming the kind of mother we are meant to be. 

I think we will all have days wondering if we are up to the tasks of motherhood.  I think it comes with the territory.  But I am happiest when I can own it and realize that I am meant to be a mother.  I am most content when I recognize the truth that this is my most significant work.  I am most confident when I contemplate that my children are actually His children, and He will help me become the mother I am meant to be if I ask and then listen.  I feel peace when I remember that I chose this, and I would choose it all over again a thousand times because of the three beautiful people I've been blessed with and because of the person they are helping me to become.

1 comment:

Joan said...

I wish I could have followed your blog when I was raising you and your brothers! Love you! Mom